Peace within Yourself

Yesterday, after a very long and tiring day, I was checking my face book page and decided to give a look to the progress of a contest being held by a very famous international makeup brand which is also one of my favorite, for giveaways and good bags. As I was going through the album of participant’s picture entries, noticed countless rude comments by users who weren’t participating but commenting very loyally. I got so fed up and signed out. I sat silently and kept thinking what is wrong with everyone. Things which can be done so peacefully and easily are done and said in so harsh and rough manner that it makes hard to survive. People are just so busy in making their way through life that they totally have forgotten that how their rudeness, harsh words and negative criticism can break someone’s confidence, heart or will to take a new step.

Emotional And verbal abuse is not a new thing in society. Its happening…God knows, since when. Problems, Ups and downs are part of life. No one can avoid them. No one can out run them.

Everyone has a right to share his/her opinion and thoughts. But it doesn’t mean that one should spew his/her anger of defeat, disability, loss & discomfort on others who are totally innocent, winners, not disable, or comfortable. If there is something that offends, irritates or annoys you, there are several of decent ways to convey your message than in harsh way. Majority of times, thoughts in these situations are conveyed in such manner that the situation become more irritating, uncomfortable and annoying. It takes a little effort to keep yourself calm and peaceful.

Being Peaceful... Ever tried to understand its meaning?

Ever tried to be peaceful? Ever thought how being peaceful will affect your life? Ever thought how your being peaceful will affect others?

Let me show you the peace that everyone carries in him/herself.

Peaceful Stands for

Patient

Effective

Accepting

Courteous

Exception

Fair

Understanding

Liberal

Be Patient:-

Think! How many times we listen this in our daily life? We are part of crowd & wherever there is crowd, hustle and bustle, being patient is a must thing, and one should do, wanted or unwanted. Things cannot always be done by the way you want or with the speed and source you want. Try to be patient and tolerant. Nobody’s perfect including you. Try to tolerate other’s mistakes and flaws and others will tolerate yours.

Be Effective:-

                      How many times you have seen that things said or done in kind and decent words bring out more positive result than the harsh ones?

If you find something or someone offending, annoying and irritating, try to tolerate it, be patient. But, if you can’t hold yourself off saying something, then say it in such a gentle manner that it does leave an effect on the listener/reader. Being nice and gentle always bring out the desired results. You’ll definitely find a positive difference in that person or the thing you find annoying or offending. So, Be Effective!

Be Accepting:-

                                     We have heard this fact multimillion times that we cannot get everything we want. Sometimes things are just the way they are and we can’t do anything to change them. Everyone has their flaws, including you. All we can do is to accept them and ourselves the way they and we are. There would be many times when someone has accepted you the way you are. Accepting the things the way they are is one of the biggest keys to finding peace in you.

Be Courteous:-

                           "If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers it shows he is a citizen of the world"-Francis Bacon

Sometimes a little courtesy and politeness and respect toward others can do the wonders. Things which seem impossible or taking too much time can be done by being considerate.

 We have been listening this from our childhood that doing something good for others will always make us feel better about ourselves. For a day, try to being gracious to others with small effortless things like saying something positive about them, pointing out their mistakes in a mannered and gentle fashion, hold the door open for the person behind you and the list goes on. I can say this surely, you’ll sleep peacefully and proud of yourself that night.

Be an Exception:-

                               “Be the exception, not the rule.” –Anonymous

Well the above quote says the all. Imagine yourself as special member in a shopping mall, where there is a event being held with the discount and free gifts for the special members. But unfortunately there’s a change in the plan and there would be no discount. Everyone who was the special member would be pissed off, giving rude comments and cursing the management. It happens all the time in these situations. It’s the rule. Try to be an exception. If you are still interested in the event hang around or simply leave instead of participating the bad mouthing.

Be Fair:-

                      Just be fair, free from bias, dishonesty, jealousy or injustice. As you have read above, we cannot get everything we want. But if someone have that something that you want so badly, be accepting and be fair. Being fair to someone can make their day, boost up their confidence or encourage them to take a new start. Appreciate graciously what you like or something which shows the effort being done. It can be art, craft, essay, gesture or even a single word. Praise honestly. Be positive to others and you’ll get the same response.

Be Understanding:-

                                                Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”  -Albert Einstein.

Try to be understanding to people. If you find someone’s acts offending or annoying, we just give a rude reaction. There is never an effort being made to know the reason behind those acts. Try to be sensitive to others, listen to their reasons and suppose yourself in their place and then judge yourself.
Have you ever had anyone listen to your pain and seem to really understand what you felt? Did that person say just the right thing to show that she or he understood and cared how you felt? That is a powerful experience! Unfortunately it is also quite rare. When people have difficulties we often give them advice: "What you need to do is . . ."
Giving advice does not show understanding. It tends to rush people on to a solution. There is an interesting contradiction about giving advice to people in pain: when we try to drag people from their pain, they tend to hold on to it more stubbornly. When we bring compassion and understanding to their pain, they are more likely to relax and get ready to move on. Understanding is very healing!
Be Liberal:-
                   Just be free and generous. Don’t say or do the things to others which you don’t want to be said or done to you. Live and let live. Nobody like restrictions, so don’t try to impose them on someone even if they are bad at something. No one is perfect, and there are many things which really appeals us but we can’t do them right or can’t get any better on them. Keep trying never hurts someone. So let others what they want, and do whatever you want.


Life isn’t fair, Life isn’t easy etc I have heard this like for..I don’t know how many times but the worse thing we do is make our life more hard and miserable by ruining others. Majority of times, when we engage ourselves in heated discussions and fights with others, which not only ruin others day as well as ours too. It takes very little effort, practice and small acts to achieve the inner happiness. The more we are peaceful inside the more we will bring peace to others.

Be Peaceful J